From Martine's Sensible Letter Writer, 1853. Nicholson Family Copy. New York, Dick and Fitzgerald.

The letters beyond all comparison the most attractive and interesting are those written in the intimate confidence excited by tender passion. The language of the heart is universal; in all countries, and with all people where there is sensibility, it is understood. It is the language of nature, charming us with its simplicity, and by its true expression of our feelings, possessing the power of commanding our sympathy. The sentiments should spring from the tenderness of heart. Any extravagant flattery should be avoided, tending to disgust those to whom it is addressed and to degrade the writers and create suspicion as to their sincerity.

Sample Letter:

Dear Allie.

Will you allow me, in a few plain and simple words, respectfully to express the sincere and esteem affection I entertain for you and to ask whether I may venture to hope that these sentiments are returned? I love you truly and earnestly and knowing you admire frankness and candor in all things I cannot think that you will take offense at this letter. Perhaps it is self flattery to think that I have any place in your regard. Should this be so the error will carry with it its own punishment for my happy dream will be over.


Favorable Reply:

Dear Sir. In the same spirit of frankness you have used in addressing me, I admit that among the gentlemen of my acquaintance there is none that I esteem so highly as yourself. I must, however, have time to think your letter over and to look into my own heart before I give you a more decided answer.

Adverse Reply:

Sir.

I do not, of course, feel offended by your manly and respectful letter, but am compelled to say that I cannot respond to the affection you profess for me. I look upon you and shall always look upon you as a friend, but not with that tender regard  which can alone justify a young lady in receiving the addresses of an admirer